Ah… The world would not be where it is today if Eve had not eaten the forbidden fruit!" How many times have we heard this statement? Poor Eve, she often gets too much credit for the introduction of sin into our world!
Where was Adam, her husband? Didn’t God entrust him with caring for the Garden of Eden? Genesis 2:15 "Then the Lord God took the man and put him into the garden of Eden to cultivate it and keep it." When Eve let herself be seduced by the snake's lie, "Did God really say?”... where was Adam?
He was there with her! Genesis 3:6: "When the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was desirable to make one wise, she took from its fruit and ate; and she gave also to her husband with her, and he ate."
Man and woman are therefore jointly responsible for the entry of sin into creation!
Their disobedience caused Adam and Eve to feel shame for the first time. They tried to cover themselves with fig leaves and hid amongst the trees of the Garden of Eden. They each avoided the blame by trying to place the responsibility on the other. Adam even accused God: "The woman whom You gave to be with me..." Genesis 3:12.
Neither of them wanted to take responsibility for the consequences of their sin: God cursed them and the whole of humanity fell away from its Creator.
Let's look more closely at the woman’s curse: Genesis 3:16 "To the woman He said, ‘I will greatly multiply your pain in childbirth, in pain you will bring forth children; yet your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.’” How should we understand this word desire?
In 1 Corinthians 7:4-5, we see that it is normal to physically “desire” one’s husband: "The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."
Since we know that God’s Word does not contradict itself, let’s dig deeper into Scripture to understand the meaning of these words...
In the Hebrew text, the word desire in Genesis 3:16 is the same as that used in Genesis 4:7 when God speaks with Cain: "If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must rule over it.” So, the word desire in this context means a "pressing desire to control." Satan was waiting for the right moment to be able to control Cain's heart...
Now, with this new insight, let's go back to Eve and correctly interpret the curse that God pronounced on women: "You will give birth with sorrow, and you will have the urgent desire to control your husband, but he will rule over you."
Thus feminism that drives women to rebellion is rooted in the curse of sin... This fight has been going on since the beginning of humanity!
God has established a perfect order: Ephesians 5:22-23 "Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the Church ... " Yet, this verse often gets a negative reaction from most Christian women (though not all!). God commands man to love his wife "as Christ loved the Church", "as he loves himself," and the woman is commanded to respect her husband. This is hard work for both spouses and blessing flows out of respecting this order: If the husband loves his wife to the point of willingly giving his life for her, his wife will respect him. If the woman respects her husband, he will love her and willingly give his life for her...
To all the women who have trouble submitting to their husbands... choose the right battle! Real power is found in realizing one of the secrets of marital happiness: Respecting the God’s ordained order. Submitting to our husband is actually a big win for us women!